Attitude of Gratitude

We are approaching that time of year again . . . I will be celebrating my birthday again on March 12th.

Strangely, I am not desiring a bash or any fanfare. I’m desiring time to worship my Father for the gift of life and an amazing family to share it with.

What a beautiful gift? What else could anyone give me? What could compare?

On any given day, any person pictured here with me is getting on my last nerve:

Who takes my cell phone charger without my permission?

Who has a mouth that makes you want to rearrange their face?

Who only follows instructions after the thirtieth request?

Who knows how to agitate somebody to the point of no return?

Who will do something they know is forbidden but then offer the sweetest apology?

At any given moment, any member of my family can fit these descriptions to the T!

And yet, there is not one of them that I wouldn’t risk my life to save. I adore this peculiar group of people that God has joined me with under the heading “family”. The love is indescribable.

If the Lord blesses me to see them another day, make more memories, have new arguments, accomplish new goals, overcome new obstacles, then my birthday will be a blessed day.

I am grateful for another year. Happy another year of life aka Happy Birthday to me!

You Are Forgiven


Something very interesting happened yesterday. One of my kids had done something that they should not have done. I was driving in the car at the time so I informed them that they would suffer a consequence later. They responded, “I don’t care”. At that moment, I knew the punishment would have to be something that they would really care about, to teach a lesson. So I replied, “I’m glad you don’t care because the rest of us will be going to get ice cream and you won’t since…you don’t care.”

At that moment, I discerned the child was very disturbed. The child was thinking, what have I done and how am I going to get myself out of this mess. From that point forward, this child’s attitude improved. (I’m sorta trying to protect this child’s identity, but it’s getting hard, and if you know my family you know who it is I’m sure. lol). We had a great time all day, with no further incidents.

No more sibling fights, each one in their own individual space working on the projects they needed to complete. I truly enjoyed each of them.


We met my husband at the restaurant and enjoyed a nice family dinner and then it started to sink in for him/her, they are about to go get ice cream. When we left, I suggested that he/she ride home with Dad so he/she wouldn’t have to endure the torture of seeing us get ice cream, but he/she insisted on coming. Clearly, he/she had developed a plan.


So we get to the ice cream place and this child gets samples. I joke, “get all the samples you want because I’m not getting you any ice cream.” The other children begin to remind him/her that he/she is not getting ice cream. Everyone gets their ice cream and sits down to enjoy it. Here comes the good part. 

The child says, “Mommy, I’m really sorry for how I acted. Will you please forgive me?” I then proceeded to give the child a lecture of the importance of being obedient and respectful and the connection to receiving blessings, like ice cream. 🙂 I said “I will get you the ice cream this time, but if it happens again at least now you know you will care so control your actions and your mouth.”

The siblings were outdone! “How did this happen Mommy?” they asked. My response “Grace stepped in.” 

I just wanted to share with you this morning that God’s Grace has stepped into your life. Yes, you have been disobedient in so many ways. Yes, you have disregarded the consequences for sinful choices. Yet, you know you don’t want to forgo the blessings of God. You know He desires to give you His absolute best, if only you would repent and turn from your ways that are not pleasing to Him. And you must!

Even though those around you will say you deserve the punishment due you, God is waiting to forgive you. He desires that none shall perish, and sent His Son so that we might all have life AND life more abundantly. Will you ask Him sincerely from your heart to forgive you? I’ll give you a moment…

Yay!!!! If you just did, guess what?! YOU ARE FORGIVEN. I’m so happy for you! 

Well then, should we keep on sinning so that God can show us more and more of his wonderful grace? – Romans 6:1 (NLT)

Of course not! Let uss pray for the Holy Spirit to come into your heart and help you to walk with God forevermore. He has soooo much more in store for you! Everlasting life, a blessed life on earth, and yes, ice cream. ☺️

3 Strategies for working from home—with kids

So school is out and you are worried you won’t be nearly as productive as you were when school was in. Try these simple strategies to stay on track with your goals.

1. Create a Schedule

You are the CEO of your little family.  The success of the operations should be thoughtfully considered and planned just as you did your corporate work before you became a work from home mom.  Think of your home during the summer like a day care, or a camp (I call mines Camp Lytle).

You want some sort of structure or schedule that will manage expectations across the board.  Maybe you take it slow every Monday, or take a field trip every Wednesday or go swimming every Friday.  Perhaps you journal every morning, ride bikes every afternoon or play board games every night. 

Whatever or however, design a plan (with the help of the kids) and post it where everyone in the family can reference it.  This builds anticipation for the kids and gives them something to look forward to.  So when you are busy with work, they aren’t anxious because they know their time is scheduled too.

2. Wake up early
Kids can sleep in during the summer like its nobody’s business!!! If you sleep in too, you just lost hours of valuable concentration time! 

You will want to wake up early because they want to sleep late (but don’t let them go too far or they won’t go to sleep!)  Take advantage of this quality private time to plan the day, execute important work related tasks and set things in motion.

Have a set of activities and chores waiting on them when they finally wake to give you that extra time you need before you have to go into mommy mode. (i.e. Make your bed, brush your teeth, eat your cereal, shower, get dressed, write in your journal, read for 15 minutes, so on).

You’ll be amazed at how much you can crank out in these hours while the out-of-school kiddos are sleeping like babies and hitting their to-do list. If you work this properly, you can capture 3 to 4 hours of solid work time!

3. Get them active

You’ll be tempted to let them watch TV or play on their phones forever, but don’t do it.  At least wait until after there has been some physical activity to warrant the down time.

I love the park.  They will run up and down slides, swing, play and burn energy.  (You might even be able to sneak in some business calls).  Local festivals are great too because it involves a lot of walking, which is exercise. Don’t forget the community pool. Swimming is great activity and fun.

The point is, if you take them somewhere where they can exert energy, they will be tired afterwards. They may be interested in a nap. If not, you could allow them ‘screen time’ or other quiet independent activities (like coloring, puzzles, reading).  This should allow you to finish up something you didn’t finish in the morning.

These are just a few of many strategies that help me work with my kiddos while having summer fun. (I try to get in at least one week of a sports camp too, but I know that isn’t in the budget for every family).  I’d love to hear what you do to make it all work. 

Please share your ideas and comments.

@ladypastorpreneur:  Alicia is a wife, mom, pastor and business woman who helps other corporate women make the transition to working from home in direct sales (network marketing) so they can flexibly earn income while spending quality time with their families.  Learn more at alicialytle.com.

A Good Man Is Easy To Find

 

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My family and I celebrated my mother’s birthday and supported a few of our members as we attended a play at the Playhouse Square this weekend.

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‘A Good Man Is Easy To Find’ was presented by Sam Sylk, and written and directed by Nathaniel Burge, who is also a member and pastor at Excel Church.

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The incredible gifting and talent in this young man is truly amazing. The vision he had and the manner in which he directed the cast to execute it—communicating powerful messages in a digestible and enjoyable manner—is clearly a gift given by God.

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Of course,  I was proud of Pastor Nate (as we call him) and Sister Melody, who leads our praise and worship team at Excel Church, but it truly goes much deeper than that.  The play did an outstanding job of tackling real life issues while provoking thought, yet leaving us with a real answer and making us laugh all the while.

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A fair number of those laughs were cleverly and even spontaneously delivered by ‘Nana’, who embodied our old school grandmothers with down to earth wisdom and brutally honest mannerisms that make you laugh so hard you cry real tears.

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Undeniably, the most impactful performance of the night occurred as two men of the cast sang a powerful duet.  We went from the play to the altar of God in about 30 seconds as an anointing filled the room like you would only expect to experience at a spirit-filled church. Be not confused though, the singing **throughout** the entire play was phenomenal.

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We had an amazing time and even had an opportunity to catch up with some great people.  It was not just a play, but an inspirational, comical, enjoyable experience that proved…a good man truly is easy to find if you are looking in the right place.

Have you seen the play? I’d love to hear your comments below. (***no spoilers***) lol
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Who doesn’t love concert recitals?


I have to be totally honest. As the mother of four small children, the oldest being just thirteen, the word “recital” had become frightening.

It normally means I have to try and keep my toddler quiet for hours while a never-ending parade of children I have never seen before hit the stage and sing songs with a ‘unique’ melody or key.


It is my parental duty nevertheless, so I bravely made my way to my 7th grader’s school with my mom while my husband kept our other children at home. As I listened, I was amazed and overcome with emotion.

What started as screeches in 3rd grade has matured to a joyful melodic sound that was quite pleasing to hear. The string orchestra was fantastic. I was proud and honored to have witnessed the evolution.


I even enjoyed listening to the performances of other children. They were professional and polished and entertaining. My how times have changed. Maybe, I have grown a little too.  I am learning as I am teaching others to never judge the process.  When we are disappointed with results of anything, we must be reminded to keep going….it will only improve if we keep trying.

I am also reminded that we are watching our children develop before our eyes and this time will be gone before we know it. What an honor and privilege it is to be a parent and to have children attending top notch schools with a fine arts education. Thank God for recitals, thank God for growth. Who doesn’t love recitals? #ladypastorpreneur

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